Remembering to Ask

First off: don't be alarmed, i was speaking of my father's wedding, not mine... which is not planned nor even conceptualized. Dad got married without a hitch (pun intended... heh). At the reception i was kind enough to ask Donna when they were leaving for Virginia on their honeymoon, and she said, "Is that where we're going?!" Aaarrrrrrgggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Once that was over last week, i just have four weeks to wait around until the Klingenstein Institute begins! i'm filling it with the reading i have to do for the program, working out, and making phone calls for apartments. i am very excited over a few of them, and will be going out on the 17th to scope them out. i have to remember to ask a whole litany of questions that i almost never remember to cover (central air? cat friendly? dishwasher? garbage disposal?) so i may well get out to some of these places and find them baking in the June sun with no a/c.

All the ones i'm looking seriously at are within walking distance to the commuter trains. So i'll be able to go into center city without taking the truck. Nice, eh?


Speaking of questions i need to remember to ask... the questions that i must start remembering to ask guys when we first start going out is growing, and soon i won't remember them all. This list doesn't come out of my purse like an interrogation sheet, but i do try to work them into conversation fairly early on. Say, first four weeks. If their responses are not what i'm looking for, it just saves everybody a lot of time. It's not meant to be mean, or put guys on the spot.

Also, responses do not preclude friendship. See, i don't hold differing opinions against people. The truth is, though, i'm just not going to be long-term compatible with people who don't agree with me on a few things. Up until yesterday, they have included the following:

1. Have you ever been cruel to an animal?
2. Do you live on your own?
and
3. How do you feel about birth parents?

i have been carrying on a flirtation with a guy i met in the last two weeks... he's local to the Philadelphia area but happened to be around Pittsburgh for a bit. We started emailing every day. It was a great exchange of ideas and dreams. i was getting very excited to get to Philly and spend some time with him.

i decided it was about time to tackle some of the big questions. So i asked him about religion. And the very next response was the big I. Intelligent Design. We went back and forth for a bit, but eventually i had to say, look, we're not going to be anything but friends.

He got offended.

Seriously, i'm sorry. i'm a biologist. i just don't see myself falling for someone who thinks my life's work is a load of bull. Best friends who banter and argue intelligently over the topic? Sure, any day. Grab me a beer and hit me with your best shot, buddy. But a lover? Mmm, no. When i get excited over a new discovery i want to be able to share it with the person i'm with. When i am crafting my lesson on big bang i want to be able to bounce ideas, not hide it away.

So....
4. Do you accept evolution as a scientific theory in the vein of gravity and quantum mechanics?


Pffft......

(Sorry, no pictures, and none for a while yet... my camera is full of photos from my dad's wedding, a hike i took last week, and a bad body-shot i tried to take in the mirror... but i'm staying with my mom and out of respect to her i won't upload the pics from dad's wedding on her computer. You understand..........)

i will be back to Wichita in four weeks to pack and move, and may well get the photos done then.